Talk It Out

I really, really like this guy. So I tried the whole sexting thing because he asked me to. But now he almost never text me, what is he thinking? Will he forward the picture to his friends?

TNC Tip: Everyone has made mistakes they wish they could take back, and unfortunately, many people have been pressured into sending nude pictures and regret it. In the future, remember to trust your instinct on what is okay, or not okay, in your relationships.

I’ve been talking to the really cute girl for two weeks. Yesterday she asked me for a naked pic. I don’t want to send one to her, but I really like her. How can I say no without making her angry?

TNC Tip: You have the right to make decisions that make you safe, comfortable, and happy. Trust your instinct on what makes you uncomfortable and be clear about how you feel. When you tell her 'NO', she should respect that.

We do not and cannot provide legal advice, but some U.S. teens have been charged with crimes or threatened with criminal charges for sending pictures of themselves to others.

I’ve been talking to this guy for a while, and he hasn’t asked for naked pics BUT he has been trying to talk dirty over the phone. I’m really not into that, but I don’t know how to tell him it makes me feel uncomfortable.

TNC Tip: Even though it can be hard to tell someone "no” it’s really important to be clear about how you feel and what you're comfortable with. You have the right to make decisions that make you safe, comfortable, and happy.

My girlfriend is always texting me, like nonstop. She’s always telling me she loves me, that she misses me, or she’s asking me where I am. She never texts anything else! Is that controlling? How can I tell her I need some space?

TNC Tip: Even though it can be hard to tell someone to stop what they're doing, it's really important to be clear about how you feel and what you're comfortable with. You can check out the Videos and Callout Cards on www.thatsnotcool.com for ideas on how to tell someone you need some space.

This guy I’ve been talking to for a while asked me to send him a pic last night. I thought it was cool, cause he just wanted a normal pic. But then he asked me send one of me in my bra. What should I do?

TNC Tip: It's important to trust your instinct on what makes you uncomfortable and be clear about how you feel. It's NEVER ok for someone to pressure your for nude pics.

We do not and cannot provide legal advice, but some U.S. teens have been charged with crimes or threatened with criminal charges for sending pictures of themselves to others. Talk to someone you trust and check out the Need Help tab for resources.

I’m afraid I’m becoming a little obsessive about this boy, but we’re not even dating! I call my friend just about every other night, sometimes every night. Is that normal? I asked him if it bothered him, and he said he didn’t mind.

TNC Tip: Trust your instinct on what is okay, or not okay. If you feel like you're calling too much, give yourself some space. It's important to be self-aware and respectful in your relationships--friendships included.

I just met this really cool girl. I don’t know her that well, but we exchanged numbers and added each other on MySpace. But now she won’t stop texting me, IM-ing me, or calling me. I really want her to stop, but I really really don’t want her to get mad. How do I handle it?

One of my girls is in a horrible relationship with a very controlling dude. I talked to her about it but she says he does that because he loves and respects her. She and I don’t talk anymore because of him. Help?

That's Not Cool Tip: Try talking with your friend directly and let her know you're concerned. Ask her if she's feeling controlled or threatened. Let your friend know you'll be there if she needs to talk and try not to be judgmental of her situation. Share this website and the Need Help tab resources with your friend.